Chrissy Cruiser wrote:
>On Thu, 25 Aug 2005 19:56:14 GMT, Rosalie B. wrote:
>
>>>>>Oh please, exactly what kind of relationship does a parent supposed to
>>>>>have, peer?
>>>>
>>>> No but physical intimidation doesn't teach anything except that it's
>>>> OK for a bigger stronger person to use that against a smaller or
>>>> weaker person.
>>>
>>>Ok, kid wanders out into traffic, do you espouse to sit down and have a
>>>nice, peer-to-peer conversation about it?
>>
>> That's not the same thing at all. That's a safety issue. The kid's
>> treatment of his sister or disrespect of adults is not a safety issue.
>
>Fair enough. So somewhere between saving the kid's very life and squelching
>a cruise costing $10,000 + is where forceful, aggressive fatherly action is
>acceptable to you?
Well as I said to begin with - if you haven't taught them what is
acceptable behavior by the time they are 16, it is pretty much too
late.
Also I would not let one child's behavior 'squelch' a cruise.
Aggressive action is acceptable for safety issues because it is really
important. Anything less is by definition not important and therefore
doesn't warrant aggressive behavior. By that age, you should be able
to talk to them.
Not that any parent, is perfect, and I would be the last one to say
that I have done the perfect thing as a parent. I would cut both your
husband and Ben's sister or any other parent a lot of slack. I would
not want to judge either of them in person or in any way except an
academic discussion like we are having.
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