On Thu, 25 Aug 2005 21:35:13 GMT, Rosalie B. wrote:
>>>>Ok, kid wanders out into traffic, do you espouse to sit down and have a
>>>>nice, peer-to-peer conversation about it?
>>>
>>> That's not the same thing at all. That's a safety issue. The kid's
>>> treatment of his sister or disrespect of adults is not a safety issue.
>>
>>Fair enough. So somewhere between saving the kid's very life and squelching
>>a cruise costing $10,000 + is where forceful, aggressive fatherly action is
>>acceptable to you?
>
> Well as I said to begin with - if you haven't taught them what is
> acceptable behavior by the time they are 16, it is pretty much too
> late.
>
> Also I would not let one child's behavior 'squelch' a cruise.
>
> Aggressive action is acceptable for safety issues because it is really
> important. Anything less is by definition not important and therefore
> doesn't warrant aggressive behavior. By that age, you should be able
> to talk to them.
Looks like ole Kenny was past being talked to or all he ever got was a
talking to, Grammy, otherwise he would have had his head screwed on right
in the first place. Once you act out in a public place that atrociously,
talking is over.
Do you have boys?
> Not that any parent, is perfect, and I would be the last one to say
> that I have done the perfect thing as a parent. I would cut both your
> husband and Ben's sister or any other parent a lot of slack. I would
> not want to judge either of them in person or in any way except an
> academic discussion like we are having.
> .
> grandma Rosalie
Academic, yes it is. And this has nothing to do with Ben's sister's
(in)abilities, but the truth is she is a single Mom and single Mom's have
lack-of-Dad issues. Kenny's actions may much be the result of that.
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