On 12/16/2003 6:38 PM Frederick performed amanuensis:
>Brian K wrote in message news:...
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>>On 12/14/2003 9:25 PM cinnamonsmom performed amanuensis:
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>>>can someone give me some insight. i am anglo from the u.s.
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>married, happy, speak enough spanish to get by, but not fluent. met a
>guy from nigaragua speaks no english, here working, trying to send
>money home, also married. He has started making suggestions that we
>could hook up, like neither spouse has to know, and we could just have
>our own thing on the side. I could not so that to my husband, but it
>seems like he doesn't have the same dedication to his wife. thoughts??
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>>Latin america has a whole tradition of "don't ask - don't tell" when it
>>comes to matters of passion. The wives know but choose not to know or
>>vice versa. It is also part of machismo for a man to be married and
>>have someone on the side. This is especially true if he is far from
>>home. His love for his wife and family is not diminished, but a man has
>>"needs". It's just ., friendship may be involved (. buddies) but in
>>the end he is dedicated to his wife and children back home. Some men
>>have a man on the side instead of a woman as unwanted pregnancy doesn't
>>come into the picture. In Brazil women may do the same, and have a
>>woman on the side. But, they are not gay, they are just having . with
>>someone of convenience. It's a different culture than here in the US.
>>Having . is recreational, just like going to the beach.
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>>If you are happily married and don't want to complicate your life with
>>an affair - just say no. He will try to change your mind, but if you
>>let it be known that you are firm, he will move on to someone else.
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>Is . considered recreational for Brazilian women too? Do they also
>look for other men, or is the machismo concept only applicable to
>guys there? In many countries looking for some action on the side is
>a good way to get your head shot off! Do Brazilian guys put up with
>other men coming on to their wives or girlfriends?
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If things are done discreetly neither partner need openly "know".
Brazilian women tend to play with their female friends as opposed to
another man. It is a matter of convenience. If a man comes on to a
married woman in the presence of her partner - that is trouble. If the
husband or boyfriend want's to share his wife with another man, that's
ok. Usually if that's the case, while the wife is flirting her husband
will buy the man a drink with an invitation to join.
Everyone wears bikinis on the beaches of Brazil. Do not mistake that
because a woman or man practically bares all that they are looking to
hook-up. It is usually at the street side cafes or bars that the players
make their moves.
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