On 12/14/2005 3:46 PM Milo Yelled "Wubba-Wubba" then wrote:
> Hi, I live in London and I'm dating a girl from New York (22 years old)
> who I've met while she was travelling in Europe. I'll be visiting New
> York to meet her, and it will be my first time in the US so my question
> is: Is there such a thing as an American "dating etiquette" or is it
> impossible to generalise? Are there any cultural differences between
> US/UK I should watch out for or are men expected to behave pretty much
> the same as in the UK? Are there any "faux pas" in particular?
>
>
You probably can answer many of these questions yourself. After all you
did date the girl. Spending time with her, she surely gave off some
signals of expected behavior. Those should be your primary guide. How
serious are things? Will you be asking her to marry at this point? If
not meeting her parents is something to do only if she comes from a
close knit family and invites you to meet them.
Admittedly it's been a while since you've seen her. You might pick up a
copy of Cosmopolitan or watch Oprah on the tube (telly). As an ice
breaker you could bring these up and ask her opinion. Then listen very
closely. That's a thing that guys tend to have trouble doing. You will
get clues as to what she likes and expects by listening. Just try not
to zone out if she rambles.
If there is something you both shared, candy, special tea, wine or
coffee that she might not be able to get in New York...it might be a
good idea to bring some to her. It may help to bridge the gap of time
by calling up good times past.
It's her city, let her be the guide. Pick up the tab unless she says no.
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